Board Thread:Off-Topic Posts/@comment-33167183-20181026003545/@comment-31680260-20181030085033

Gob47 wrote: ok. bet.

to say a few things:

this is an online forum and is NOT the place to try to have a "sensitive" discussion. irl covers that pretty well. how well do you know us anyways that you didn't think that we (mostly me, i'll admit) would derail this thread? like, seriously. we don't need to know about your rejection count. behind the wall of the internet, there is no way for us to convey emotion to you. from your examples, you were probably trying to have a relationship with some gal before your parents trusted you to cross the street.

'''That may be your experience, Gob, but... this community saved my life from suicide. I disagree that sensitive discussions shouldn't take place online. For one, we can't exactly discuss things IRL - being in different countries - so online is currently the only way to reach the people Betima trusts. Derailing a thread that the OP (original poster) doesn't want derailed is just rude. "We don't need to know" is literally just apathy. If you don't care, that's okay, but don't speak for everyone else when this post wasn't directed at you.'''

also.

stop getting so edgy. life is not supposed to be depressing, you're supposed to have interactions with people that isn't you having your feelings hurt because they are trying to change you mindset. stop being so paranoid of things you shouldn't even care about too strongly. why do you try to build up your online persona so much? will it matter in 10, 20 years? most of the wikians are teenagers, and when they go off to postsecondary school, they don't have the time for this anymore. this shouldn't matter that much. (although i have to admit i'm really bored so i spam this place, i don't see it as something that i could use with my life, but that's a me problem)

'''Being sad over multiple rejections isn't being edgy. It's being human. Betima has been trying to have positive interactions with people; that's what this whole thread is about. Also, don't try and tell someone that they "should" or "shouldn't" care about something. That doesn't change how much they actually care, and is kinda just judgemental. As for "will it matter in 10, 20 years?", well, I don't know. But it certainly won't matter if you don't LET it matter. I met Lazu through here, and I intend to spend the rest of my life with her. So yes, for all intents and purposes, this wiki will likely matter in 10 or 20 years for me. And if it can matter to me, why can't it matter to Betima as well? You might see it as a place for spam and jokes, and that's totally fine. What's not fine is telling people that that's ALL this wiki is, because it's so much more than that.'''

anywho.

we're all trying to encourage you and you lash back at the community for "making fun of you." i might not seem like it, but i am. and so are faraday and onlyshots, in their own little ways. you can't generalize something about hoomans from across the web. i think you need to understand that we are all different and that not everything in life is built to bring you down. there will be low points in your life, but we are survivors. life moves on.

'''You've all got funny ways of encouraging someone, especially considering your persistence after Betima's asked you to stop multiple times. Find a way to help that's actually helpful, or stay out of it. Otherwise you'll do what I used to (and sometimes still) do and make the situation worse without meaning to. Take the time to LISTEN to Bet. Don't just keep trying to help with a method that's making things worse.'''